[cookiedough]

That young man didn't resist because the perp had a gun.

You do not know, unless you have personally experienced it, what it is like to be kidnapped at gunpoint.

I do know. It happened to me when I was a teenager. At one point, the perp and I were in a public area and there were other people around. I could not do anything to save myself. He was there. And he told me that if I did one thing to alert anyone that all was not totally normal, he would shoot everyone in the place.

That was all it took for me to not let on that anything was wrong. I did not want the other people to be shot.

[Iwo Jima]

"he told me that ... he would shoot everyone in the place.... I did not want the other people to be shot."

That's a very traumatic story. I have absolutely no criticism of how you, as a young, sweet, and inexperienced girl, reacted to that situation. But I would like for all of our daughters to know this: resistance is almost always better than submission.

He's not going to shoot everyone in the place. That's absurd. One or two maybe. But that's it. If other people get shot, it's not your fault. You have no responsibility to sacrifice yourself for them. If he shoots them, that's his blame, not yours.

It is almost always better to make a public stink and just let the lead fly than let him take you somewhere and do the unimaginable and then kill you.

[cherry]

That young man didn't resist because the perp had a gun

. my point was only to refute that the girls should have some how resisted..well, they had a gun at them also...do we expect them to be braver or stronger than the males...? if the guys didn't think they could fight back , I should think we wouldn't expect the girls too...who , by the way, were much younger than the boys, and much smaller than the boys.....