I was at a birthday party and some other other mothers of kindergarteners were talking. Two of them let their kids watch Spanish soap operas with them and then told me that their little boys try to kiss them like men kiss the women on the soap operas. But they keep watching the soap operas with their kids (Spanish soap operas are mostly soft porn nowadays). I told them, "couldn't you tape it and watch it later when they're in bed?!!!!" I got some excuse in return.
When one of the children asked his mom who is pregnant, "where do babies come from?" she gave him all of the mechanics. Then she told me that he talks about sex at age six and gets jealous when her husband hugs or kisses her in front of him. I told her that maybe he wasn't ready for that information at age 5, maybe age 8 is a better age, maybe later. She told me that she doesn't want to "lie to him". That's the problem with American parents, we've been brainwashed by the left to think we have to tell our kids everything.
My child asked where babies come from and I told him: God puts the babies in the mommies' tummies. That's age appropriate for his innocence at five year old. I don't know why he has to know the mechanics so early when he wants to play with toys, not girls, and we don't live on a farm. Every child is different, and I thank G-d I don't have to send him to a public school.
Excerpt from Attachment Parenting in a Detached World by Jennifer Coburn:
(Fifteen month old) Katie joined me on a visit to my doctor. The nurse came in to take my blood pressure when she noticed Katie was nursing. "How old is that child?" she asked. When I told her, she confessed that her son nursed past a year also and immediately began reciting a laundry list of weaning techniques. She didn't stop for a moment to consider that Katie and I liked our nursing relationship. She assumed that I wanted to stop nursing, but just didn't know how. "Sometimes you've just got to give them a jalepeno cocktail, " she suggested. "Hot peppers on your nipple and they'll never come back." This one saddened me. "But I want her to come back," I replied. "Children need to know they can count on you for consistent loving care, not cruel tricks that violate their trust." Naturally, my blood pressure reading was a little high.
I am always disappointed when people tell me that they slept in a crib, or they were fed formula, or they were raised by a nanny, and they "turned out okay." I respond that I was hoping to do a little better than okay in the greatest responsibility I had. I get mixed reactions to this. Dr. Michael Commons and his colleagues of Harvard Medical School recently reported that children who sleep alone are more susceptible to post-traumatic stress disorders and personality disorders, and that these conditions are virtually unheard of in countries where co-sleeping is the norm. Violent crime is at an epidemic high in our country. American teens are seeking fulfillment through gang membership, drugs, promiscuity. More adults are on antidepressants than ever before. Would attachment parenting offer a panacea to all of our social problems? Of course not. But loving parents and a solid family would be a great start.
Then she told me that he talks about sex at age six and gets jealous when her husband hugs or kisses her in front of him.
I read somewhere never to do anything with your spouse in front of the child/children that you can't let your child be involved in. When we hug, and the kids come up and want in, they get let in without hesitation.