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This is just a snippet--but the underlying message you write is "I'm not going to change. Tough." Sorry, but in most good marriages where both partners feel fulfilled and cherished, both parties can and do change. Children change the equation considerably. And, no, I don't keep a record of their time on the golf course, but I do know their wives would like a break, and don't get one. Not all guys are like this, obviously! But it's not the wife's fault that she wants him to change when this happens; it's his fault for being so darn selfish. Somebody HAS to change once kids come enter the picture, and and it shouldn't be on the wife to do most of the changing.

I understand what you're saying. And I think everyone adapts to these situations. I just think that women often get an unrealistic idea on what changes a guy is going to make. All too often, I've seen guys that pretty much disappear from the face of the earth once they start a family. Its hard for me to agree with you when I have many friends that basically aren't allowed out of the house at all since they've had kids. It was hard enough to get to see them after they got married.

That isn't my idea of a "give and take" situation; it is a prison. And that prison is guarded by that nuclear bomb next to the bed known as divorce. And, I think that is one of the things that this article is about.