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No flames here, gentlemen. I'm in complete agreement with you.

I'm 38, divorced, employed, have custody of my nine year old daughter, and I'm going to school to finish my degree. The women that I have have met that are my age in my local area either don't want to get involved with a man with a daughter as young as mine (tough luck - we're a package deal), or they've got a chip on their shoulder as big as Texas - that, or they're seriously unstable.

What I always found laughable was the young women at school that were dating some absolute a##holes - guys that were verbally and physically abusive, guys that were dating more than one woman - and making a point of letting everyone know - and the women complaining about it. If he's so bad, why stick with him? And the answer, almost every time, would be "Oh, I know he'll change," or "well, there's no one else."

What I always found laughable was the young women at school that were dating some
absolute a##holes - guys that were verbally and physically abusive, guys that
were dating more than one woman - and making a point of letting everyone know

About ten years ago, I read an article in "American Scientist", a publication of
a respected honorary scientific society.

The article was about observations made by two well-educated female scholars of
a band of apes in the wild (I think it was baboons.).

These lady researchers were trying to figure out the influence of "female choice" in selecting
males for mating purposes.

I JUST ABOUT BUST A GUT LAUGHING, when they described with disbelief that one of the
most popular males among the lady baboons was the "bad boy".
This jerk baboon bit, snarled and generally treated the female baboons with disrespect
bordering on open hostility.
The lady baboons couldn't get enough of him when it came time to "make new baboons".

These educated lady researchers just couldn't understand this and went at length
(and impotently) tried to rationalize this behavior. Their befuddlement should have
gotten them a role in the movie "Clueless".

I just thought to myself..."these ladies must have gone to an all-girl prep school; it's obvious
they never attended a regular high school!"

As difficult as it's been, I try to NOT believe that more than a few
human females are simply female baboons. Even though the evidence might support
this point of view.

Betcha if you 38 yrs. old divorced, had custody of your nine yr old daughter, and owned your own business, and was pulling down a couple of hundred grand a year , they would be plenty interested!!!

What I always found laughable was the young women at school that were dating some absolute a##holes - guys that were verbally and physically abusive, guys that were dating more than one woman - and making a point of letting everyone know - and the women complaining about it. If he's so bad, why stick with him? And the answer, almost every time, would be "Oh, I know he'll change," or "well, there's no one else."

it's not just true in your area only ... it's an amazing process to watch ... unbelievable ...

What I always found laughable was the young women at school that were dating some absolute a##holes - guys that were verbally and physically abusive, guys that were dating more than one woman - and making a point of letting everyone know - and the women complaining about it.

Women think these a##holes are "exciting." They do not see the correllation between the "exciting guy" and their "miserable marraige." Meanwhile, many perfectly fine men acquire the "boring" label. The women also do not see the correllation between "boring" and a "peaceful" stable marraige.

It appears that women want to find a guy - any guy - then marry, and change him into someone she wants. Why do you suppose she doesn't look for someone she wants in the first place?

"they've got a chip on their shoulder as big as Texas "

It's not got as much with the children as you might imagine. There is a lasting stigma associated with collecting welfare or child support. A large number of people that work for a living "e.g. middle class", have always resented those that get a free ride, courtsey of their income tax with holdings.

Women who choose to go the welfare and child support route are generally left with a small pool of men to select from. It is the pool of men who have no work ethic, "aka losers". I am sure there are exceptions, but as a rule it matches my observations pretty good.