I have a good male friend who has continually talked for the last 7 years about how profoundly selfish his ex-wife is -- and he's right. However, when I point out that this woman's grotesque selfcenteredness never would have escaped his noticed if he hadn't been looking at her through the hormone colored glasses he put on when he started shacking up with her, he says I'm crazy, and he's back to square one trying to bed all his dates.
How can someone fail to see something so obvious?
How do I break through to him?
wallpaper his house with all the paperwork from his divorce. use any depositions from his ex for the bathroom.....
Well, I think that's a conclusion he would have to draw on his own. If you can get him to ponder what signs he may have missed, it will occur to him to wonder why he missed them.