I say that because step 11 kind of supercedes all the others. Lust can be a hard one to tame!! Almost got me married once, actually twice, but the first one was oh-so-close. I just woke up one morning (well, actually, a series of mornings but one day, I gave up on the battle) and realized that it wasn't going to work despite my best efforts. And it was all my effort - she had just been going along for the free ride.