I'll tell you who gets to make that judgement call...THE WIFE HERSELF...Not her multitudes of divorced or disgruntled girlfriends with too much time and advice on their hands. I saw the pain my brother went through when he married a "debutante commitee" instead of a wife, so I KNOW that aspect all too well!
Every woman has a heart and a brain. We may not let the brain have a say as often as we do the heart, but when BOTH know a good thing, outsiders need to butt out and leave things alone. Good men aren't growing on trees. You have to hunt to find them and have the sense to know when you missed the target BEFORE he is your spouse.
outsiders need to butt out and leave things alone I agree 100%. But I have yet to see a woman without a committee. There is at least one, usually more, that knows how to hint, then retreat, suggest, then retreat, tell a negative tale, then retreat, until the woman has for all practical purposes made a decison and thinks it is her own. I know this because I have eavesdropped, shamelessly. And when you confront her with the conversation, she is totally unaware anything like that went on and will deny it vehemently.
