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"Growing Kids God's Way"

Oh my stars, don't get me started either! This is another one of those examples I gave earlier where parents have abdicated (or perhaps never had) control over their kids and have turned to a "program" to try to help them. Perhaps it's a life-saver for some people. I don't need a book to tell me how to raise my child. If I read the Word and carefully try to discern what the Holy Spirit is convicting me of, I feel like I can do anything, "through Christ who strengthens me."

It's like AA. Now I know this is a lifesaver for some people. Both my brother-in-laws nearly killed themselves drunk driving and now can't go a day without going to "a meeting". My husband drank a lot too. One day he quit. No meetings. No support group. My brother-in-laws actually resent him!

My goal in raising my kids is not "growing kids God's way", but raising Godly kids. I think there is a difference. I want to be an example to my children on godly living, and I want to encourage them to become godly, but ultimately it is their choice. For example, my husband comes from a very godly home. His father was an extremly godly man, and I admire him. My husband's family raised their children to be godly, but not all of them have chosen to be godly. It was ultimately a choice they made. That's what I think is important for parents. They need to be an example, teach their children right from wrong, punish them if need be, but in the end they have to be let go to make thier own decisions.