My eyes glaze over at, and my wallet would hurt, doing all that you go thru, for me to drive a vehicle that sits in my garage for 98-99% of the hours/week. Some weeks, it’s 99%+.
We are different. For you, these things are your hobby. Me, I just need to ride occasionally.
Maybe 10 or 12 times a year do I need to drive more than 15 miles round trip. Aww, what the heck, I will be generous and call it 15.
So in a nutshell don't get an EV unless:
1) You're driving at least 12K miles per year on home charged miles.
2) You need two cars anyway (i.e. married) so the other car is a gas car in case some long trips have few good charging options your or your long trips are during the cold up north.
3) You can set up charging at home.
4) You have to replace one of your cars anyway. (It's not gas savings if you're making a car payment for no reason.)
In our case, with solar, the 12K in step 1 is 8K miles for the threshold of do-I-drive-enough-miles-for-an-EV-to-save-me-more-than-it-costs-me. We drive 18K miles per year on home charged miles, well past the 8K miles threshold.
So far for us, we haven't wanted to drive up north during the cold winter. And the only trip we were glad we took the gas pickup is one that involved pickup chore hauling anyway. But I knew that before getting an EV. I knew that most of the trips we like driving are conducive to EV's (fast chargers up and down the eastern seaboard when we visit family, and the ones up north we never visit during the winter).