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I’ve been reading the replies to this and other similar discussions.

The root cause of all of this is that humans are selfish, sinful creatures. And a marriage is one thing that really exposes that nature.

A good marriage is not one where both sides are thinking “what can the other do for me?” but where both sides are thinking “what can I do for the other?”. It is self-sacrifice, which modern culture abhors.

The feminist and anti-ferminist movements are about the power structure in relationships at all levels. When one views every relationship in terms of power, one will always find inequities.

For centuries, nearly all cultures and religions supported families as positive for the culture. When a culture doesn’t support the family, but actively promotes the destruction of it, it removes a positive restraint on selfishness.

To say it’s solely the fault of one sex or the other is nonsense. And to use the outliers as an excuse to burn the whole thing down is nonsense as well.

If you don’t think marriage is good for you, I respect your position. It’s not for everyone.

As I see it, the only solution is not to blame each other, but to try to bridge the divide, to promote societal norms that promote marriage, not to destroy them. But I doubt that’s possible in a society that has forgotten God.