Back when I used to stop in a McDonald’s on a regular basis, I twice witnessed the same woman berating the clerk over some tiny order mix-up. Even at the time it didn’t seem like a mix-up to me. It was a setup. Each time I grabbed my coffee and left.
The second time the woman yelled, “I’m not the type to complain.”
The clerk said, “Lady, you do this every day.”
“WHAT! WHAT!”
This is where I left. The point is, this woman was a rager. She gets high off screaming at people. Studies show that when a rager is at their peak of rage they actually calm down. Their heart rate and blood pressure drop. They are transferring their stress to the target. In this case a helpless clerk.
These people are everywhere. The reaction of the family is the reaction of a family to “family secrets.” That’s the thing that nobody ever talks about. Typical family secrets are abuse, alcoholism, drug use, etc. They never get talked about because when you mention it, the rage goes nuclear and nobody wants to deal with that.
I’ve always dealt with it by leaving. Once I even left a relationship the first-time rage put in an appearance. You can’t fix it, because the rager will apologize, promise it won’t happen again, and then it happens again. Abusers rock you back and forth to maintain control. The only option is to leave.
Rings true!
I would give the ragers some inanimate objects on which to take out their rage.
Rocks and sledge hammers - within the walls of a penitentiary. With armed guards patrolling on the wall-tops.
Regards,
I’ve never heard of this before.