I realized a long time ago that real friendship is based on love, not common interests, proximity, etc. And most people just aren't capable of love.
I have 2 good friends and consider myself lucky. I know a few other people (acquaintances, but not friends) from whom I feel genuine affection.
Trouble with real friends, unless you get out before them. They leave you holding the bag. I’m down to one friend and two brothers-in-law. I knew I was in trouble when funerals rolled around I was asked to be a pall bearer. Then it happened more often. Pretty soon you don’t read obituaries. It’s the natural process. I know it’s coming and I’ll have to stand and answer to GOD for my life. It is what it is. I’ve had a good run, the only thing I regret, is not being able to go back and apologize for past screw ups, that’s above my pay grade
There are many truths in this article. One of them is that when these relationships fade it still hurts like losing a loved one. This is why family bonds must be nurtured through both good times and bad. There does not need to be a reason to visit Mom and Dad. Just a desire to share time, stories and feelings with one another. Be well.
I have a few what I call friends. IMO, a friend is someone you can call for bail at 3AM and they don’t ask what did you do. Seriously, I mentioned this to my wife when she retired. Her circle of “friends” mostly included those she worked with. After a year or so, she was in touch with one.
I have always been able to tell the difference between friends and acquaintances. I have few friends and have had the same ones forever. Even though none of us live by each other anymore we stay in touch regularly.