I’m facing this now. My husband left us for a 23 year old in 1981. We had 4 children 7,6,4 and 3 years old. By the term left, I mean we never saw him or another penny from him. I raised the children all by myself. We never divorced and this past winter he passed away. I only found out he was sick 2 weeks before he died. I asked him to make out a will, but he refused. Because I live in a community property state, my lawyer said half of my assets transfer to him. He had children during our separation who will inherit a percentage of my assets if I sell my house to go into assisted living. I’m 80 years old and was counting on that money for my care.
Wait, that doesn't make any sense. He's dead. Half of HIS assets should transfer to YOU.
I’m so sorry that you are going through this. People can be so awful.
Hopefully your children can help you.