During Thanksgiving, my niece was speaking very negatively about her husband. She holds strong left-leaning political views and has been deeply affected by political polarization in recent years.
In the early years of their marriage, she worked as a public school teacher for a full decade to qualify for student loan forgiveness. She later transitioned into insurance sales for a while. Currently, she is a full-time stay-at-home mom, a decision they made because the cost of childcare would have been higher than her potential earnings.
Her husband works in his father’s family business, putting in 40–60 hours per week to provide for their family. Thanks to his efforts, they live in a nice upscale home and drive good vehicles.
I gently pointed out how hard he works to support their family and suggested that she might want to appreciate his dedication more.
I believe this may be part of a broader trend among women in her age group. I’ve come across numerous videos online where women express regret after going through a divorce. Many seem to realize only afterward how much they had in their marriage and didn’t fully appreciate it at the time.
I gently pointed out how hard he works to support their family and suggested that she might want to appreciate his dedication more.
I met with my niece and her husband. During the conversation my niece said something pretty wise and I turned to her husband and said, “you have a pretty wise wife there.” Later in the conversation I related to her a comment that he made that showed his family was where his heart was. You could tell that both of them needed to hear these things.
My ex listened to all her unmarried girlfriends. “Peter’s harsh, Peter’s mean, Peter’s abusive.................... Didn’t matter what I said. That she believed these lies showed me where her heart was.
Pro 30:21 There are three things that make the earth tremble—no, four it cannot endure:
Pro 30:22 a slave who becomes a king, an overbearing fool who prospers,
Pro 30:23 a bitter woman who finally gets a husband,........
Lessons to learn:
Men, check for bitterness
Women, don’t be bitter.