There are NO winners in divorce. Families and parts of people are destroyed that can never be fixed. Legal separation no longer exists but it was far better in cases of abuse or severe mental problems. Families could survive that but divorce not.
Men generally come out ok in divorce, as long as the child support and alimony are within a reasonable amount of his pay. He can get on with his life, but women tend to not as able get on with their lives.
The attorneys are the only winners. No one else.