The difference is that Ukraine's government couldn't operate without US tax dollars and we haven't given a penny to Russia.
Everything you believe is true about Russia IS true of Ukraine. So, stop pretending there is any kind of moral high ground in supporting Ukraine.
In wars aplenty over centuries, religious buildings have been damaged or wholly destroyed. Coventry cathedral in the UK as the Frauenkirche, Dresden. The Hurva Synagogue as the Old Sheldon Church. ISIS beheading Christians and burning churches in Mozambique as churches in the Nouvelle-Aquitaine.
Using media and public relations strategies to claim some "moral high ground" is so often an extension of war by other means.
In an interview of two widows, which I saw on German TV decades back, one English and one German, neither would forgive the other's nation for the destruction of a "holy place," and neither suggest their nation's destruction of another "holy place" was wrong-headed. In war, all sides find victims aplenty.