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Personally I think the whole concept of Hall Mark love stories and throwing the word love around like it's chocolate on Valentines Day is a part of the problem especially if not exclusively for women. Women are driven by emotion and really want that fairy tale called love. It hurts them as they look for relationships because men don't think that way. They want love and fear rejection. That was men when I was dating. You want to find a woman you enjoy being with that you wake up every morning looking forward to see her. But we feared rejection. That hamstrings you in finding that someone. Eventually I understood that even if I really cared for someone that did not equate to a lifetime together.

The reality is love is hard f’ing work. My grandmother told she married my grandfather because economically they needed each other. They married just as the Great Depression hit. After five children, years of hard work raising them, one day my grandmother rolled over in bed looked at my grandfather and realized she never wanted to wake up without him next to her. That was the day she said she realized she loved him. No Hallmark moment, just hard work building a home and raising a family together.

I agree the porn epidemic is a part of the problem along with environmental/social issues and oddly enough, decreased levels of testosterone in young men. How that and a porn epidemic go hand in hand I don't know. pun intended, sorry! When it comes to love, women have been sold a bill of goods. Men don't fall in love, lust absolutely, love not so much. We learn to love over time.

“Maybe it’s the prevalence of porn. People don’t feel the need to be with anyone else. Young people’s drives are out of whack”

I’ll second that. I’m mid 50s fit and a musician. I get out and about every weekend. There are beautiful younger women everywhere and guys ignore them. And the women are putting themselves out there. The women love when I flirt with them. And these aren’t the horrid fat liberal women that we see on TikTok.