Forgiveness isnt for the other person. Its so that you can get past it and move on. Lots of times life gets placed on hold and you’re stuck. Fixated. Obssessed. Forgivensss is giving yourself the ability to continue on with life.
It doesnt mean no accountability or no consequences for the other person(s). It really means you won’t let them have this continuing power over you, taking up your thoughts and time and mental energy.
You can forgive someone, but have consequences. Like never seeing them again. Or never having a certain kind of relationship ever again. Because some things aren’t fixable once broken.
I agree - forgiveness does not mean no consequences.
Capital Murder trial 1995…a witness had finished testimony and was dismissed with neither side electing right to recall him.
In the hallway of the courthouse I found him seated on a bench and I took a good picture of his face and walked off.
He had a fit inside the hallway and the DA investigator came up to me with the butt hurt guy. Both knew who I was and I told butt hurt that it was best that we never cross paths ever again.