Now imagine if the roles were reversed. People would be crucifying the guy for not being able to “work the boat”. And also crucifying him because, “how could he let her jump in not knowing how to swim?”
But no, this way we just get snark comments about the guy, nothing about the inept woman.
It's the natural order. You don't see John Wayne flailing around screaming to be rescued by Vera Miles - although Maureen O' Hara maybe could. She was full of piss 'n' vinegar.