The drummer afflicts others, not themselves. Worse, they play as loud as they want which forces the other musicians to turn up the amps and then suffer.
Seems you are not a fan of drums.
First you forget that the drummer can hear the amps also.
Secondly, the drummer will play to the size of the venue, and sometimes need mics for medium to large venues to be heard over the other musicians.
Thirdly, it's often times that the guitar players are obsessed with increasing the volume.
Lastly, try telling a jazz drummer in a nightclub he is causing the trumpet or sax player that he is causing them to blow harder.