I could not agree more. He is my sole beneficiary and I will help him out in an emergence but I'm not going to subsidize a life of laziness. He's just a clastic case of failure to launch.
I blame his mother for not pushing him out of the nest, I blame myself for letting her do it. There is nothing wrong with him, doesn't drink or do drugs. He is capable of so much more with his life.
The good news is that I set up his trust so that he can't access the principal. Every month he will receive a very nice check and the principal interest will last him his lifetime.
Which he will need because he does not even qualify for Social Security. @!#^$%&
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in my case, i would let him have some $ for a useful college studies or trades apprentice program. and maybe access to more $ if he gets and keeps a real job or?
In short, I would try using my money as incentive capital to get him off his ass and to make a life for himself.
fair warning, I’ve seen even highly-incentivized efforts fail with some kids. bit it might work...sometimes does...
anyway that’s in general how I would try approaching it.
if it failed, well.. he still sounds like a decent kid, and maybe someday he might wake up and actually want to do something for himself. Stranger things have happened...
cheers,