I never had this issue.
My husband and I went to a bridal consultant (excellent decision).
We made all the choices together. Location, food, invitations, DJ versus band, colors, his church, my priest, vows, length of ceremony, guest list, everything.
It wasn’t my wedding, it was our wedding.
First marriage, woke up late for work. Called and let them know we would be late. Went by courthouse got license stop and got rings, got married at lunch time by guy we worked with in the lunch room.
Second time. Got license went to jail and got married by the magistrate.
My wife and I eloped, kind of.
She was still in the IDF. She’s Sephardic. Her parents didn’t approve of her marrying an American, let alone an Ashkenazi. My parents couldn’t afford the trip to Israel. I was stationed in Iraq (US Army).
So we basically had her IDF Rabbi (Orthodox Ashkenazi), the IDF outdoor “chapel”, her IDF unit, a bunch of my Army buddies (generally not Jewish), two British nurses attached to our unit, and a couple of cousins from both sides of the family.
Best man was a Lutheran door gunner who was completely freaked out.
Worked out great. 30 years, so far.
What’s the difference between a bridal consultant and a wedding planner?
Yes, but I think there are a lot of things men either don't care about, or don't know what to choose. But maybe a few things.
Yeah, you won, because there’s no way I would have done that. The marriage is both of yours; the wedding was for you.