I was 27 when I had mine. I was having two to ten month-long menstrual cycles and losing up to a liter of blood daily. I’d had previous ablation which healed, and thus failed, and the GYN refused to do it a second time, then refused the hysterectomy. I was having blood transfusions, FFS; bad for transplant patients. I had the hysterectomy through another GYN who looked at my history and had a moment of, “WTF was your previous doctor thinking?”
I’d had a previous tubal ligation to prevent pregnancy, as due to my health issues it’s safer that I don’t conceive. I didn’t want to ever make the decision of my life or my child’s, which is what it would have been reduced to. I was always careful, two forms of protection and whatnot, but I didn’t want to risk it.
Sometimes I’m sad I’ll never have kids... I’ll be 37 this year. I know it’s for the best, though. My health is sh¡t due to issues I was born with, and my husband isn’t doing too well either; he’s two years older. I can’t risk passing this on to kids, either.
Oh my! And although I think it’s bad that birth control has swallowed up the focus of modern gynecology (at the expense of funding things like endometriosis research!) — I do not want to dismiss the very real benefits hormonal intervention and regulation can afford many women via the pill etc…And again, the study says it’s not that 100% of hysterectomies that are unnecessary, but many.
My husband isn’t doing too well either…
Prayers that both of you be restored to fullness of health in body and mind!
There are women and men who have infertility issues even with all their reproductive organs and youth in tow — so the question (if you are a person of faith) then becomes if God is calling you to have children; but in some other way? Adopting a child, etc…I mean even couples with biological children may feel called to adopt.
I’m sorry, friend. That sounds like a really tough road. I’ll keep you and your husband in my prayers.