*’I was in love with Rebecca and struggled to come to terms with my abuse - I was completely in denial.*
Get your first piece of ass and you’re in love?
Again, you insist on viewing this situation from your pagan male point of view -- sex with a woman is simply a two-person masturbation with the man in control, and the woman may as well be a blow-up doll.
The child was harmed because the woman was haviing FEMALE ROMANCE NOVEL SEX, literally seducing him with fantasies of love and sensuousness, while controlling the entire situation, driving the car, coercing him and making him her playtoy without regard to his vulnerabilities. When he started to feel uncomfortable, she threatened him and made him feel trapped by guilt. He could not just walk away.
Get out of your own preconceptions and think back to a time in your childhood or teens when you were bullied and controlled by a selfish person.
That woman kept after him for months and years, stole his sense of being the leader of a woman in sex and love, and has saddled his youth with wondering about the fate of someone who can't take care of themself, can't speak clearly, has many needs, and poops their pants, and I don't mean Joe Biden.