I don't get it. What is happening to these people? They sound like they are basically confused in their beliefs, and they just talk in circles trying to support their stance.
What you are describing is fear.
When folks act out of fear they get irrational.
What are they afraid of?
Imho they are denial of what has happened to the country in the past few years.
They think they can be “polite” and “compromise” with leftists.
We know that Ozzie and Harriet are dead—and those days are over.
Sad to say but your conservative friends are political idiots if they back Nikki over Trump.