I was already suffering from depression before, this took it to a new level.
It's hard to move on. And yes part of me did die with her, it's just so hard to push forward
Everything you do, until you meet again, will be with an eye of being able to share it.
Keep a diary and fill that diary with a bunch of activities, pictures and everything. Just to remind yourself of what you’ll be able to share with her. If you take a pottery class, for example, you can keep pictures of all the vases so you can show her.
That kind of stuff.
“It’s hard to move on. “
“It’s not that you forget, because you don’t. And it’s not that you become used to it, because you don’t. And it’s not that you learn to live with it, because you don’t. It’s that somehow you come to be able to live with it.” (Anonymous)
Find a grief support group, and if that doesn’t help find another till you find one that does.
You are under no obligation to move on to the time table of anyone else. At some point the memory of her will bring a smile before it brings tears. Till then be kind to yourself.
It was devastating. Some of the things that helped me through it were great daughters, lots of friends (which were mostly hers as I was more reserved), a company who appreciated my work which I dove deep into to stay too busy for depression and a weekly class suggested by fellow freepers called griefshare, which was well worth the time invested even if I was the only guy versus a dozen plus women who completed the course.
My condolences on the loss of your wife;it is so hard to lose someone who is such a part of your life.
>> I was already suffering from depression before, this took it to a new level. <<
Take care of this: get checked out by a doctor and see a therapist.
My dad died and I did not keep up with my thyroid levels. As a result I ended up with really low levels for a few months. I did not have the physical resources to keep my head above water (metaphorically).
Just don’t neglect yourself. This is a hard enough loss to go through without taking care of yourself. Take care of yourself the way you would if you were helping a loved one through this.