(They're not mutually exclusive, its just that the former should not be the priority)
If you're search is for a compatible spouse, you might start by looking for someone with similar values.
(This presumes you have some established values of your own, or at least values that you aspire to.)
while still single I had priorities and values but I let one cute girl with no real moral values get to me. it was great for a while...until she found out that I was a rush fan. she ranted, raved, threw things then gave me an ultimatum. sometimes I miss her. no truer words were ever spoken than “all women are bi. you just have to figure out if they’re bisexual or bipolar”.