Your insistence that rejecting her father’s traditonal role in a church wedding is “relatively minor” is way off base. It’s a cut to the heart, and a public display of indifference to his place in her life in front on all their family and friends.
You’ve mentioned the “minor” thing that “tore your family apart.” Starting to think it was not so minor. Without naming names, can you clue us in as to what it was?
Check your FR mail, please.