That is what confirmation bias is about
You don’t see what you can’t imagine unless you can’t avoid it or it is too obvious to ignore.
This is why people fail to notice the signs of impending suicide in a family member or friend.
But I don’t see a woman getting a thrill doing it to a young boy. Lesbians and girls...yah,I get that. But not the other way. But I suppose I could be wrong.