It’s true that a regular job can grab so much of your time that you don’t have time to date. I chose a job as a government lawyer in part so I could have some boundaries and be able to try to find a husband. It still entailed a lot of unpaid overtime but I was better situated than my friends in private firms.
I really feel sorry for lonely young people. I think we need to step up and start introducing them and extending hospitality, so they can meet people in a casual way and be somewhat assured they are not psycho or something. I don’t think we need arranged marriages at all, but I kind of appreciate how the parents of a couple of southeast Asian friends had realistic suggestions about who their kids might hit it off with and introduced them. No pressure, just practice interacting, and possibly a potential mate.
“I chose a job as a government lawyer”
A good friend of mine quit his government lawyer job to go for the big bucks with a private firm. He was very skilled and had many offers.
He lasted two years—and then quit and went back to the government job.
The reason—the private firm had him working eighty hours a week and he just burned out...