Our oldest daughter is 36, middle one is 34, and our son is 32.
The eldest is an incorrigible liberal. Not quite the insane lib, but a strong lib.
Our middle one and youngest one don’t like politics. I think the middle one is middle of the road and the youngest is fairly conservative.
I’ve learned that the kids don’t want to discuss politics or get the opinions of their parents. Your job in that department ended when they were in their late teens.
We’ve come to mutual accommodations so we can enjoy each others company. I don’t criticize and they don’t either. We know what topics are off limits. That is the best way to enjoy your kids and not get into fights than can turn ugly and lead to estrangement.
This is the best solution. My father in law, who is a fantastic person I greatly revere, is a Trump fan. I’m not. I think the last six years have taught us a lot about how to bite one’s tongue.
“I’ve learned that the kids don’t want to discuss politics or get the opinions of their parents. Your job in that department ended when they were in their late teens.”
Like you, we’ve come to mutual accommodations so we can enjoy each others company. I don’t criticize and they don’t either. We know what topics are off limits. That is the best way to enjoy your adult kids and not get into fights that can turn ugly and lead to estrangement.”
One of our DIL’s is an old fashioned liberal. She has created two careers and owns rental property.
“If my wife or I have surgery or some health issues, she is here to help and yet never be in the way. Our youngest son/her husband is a true middle of the road re neither major party. So we don’t discuss politics.
Our other DIL is a Wharton grad and has gone from obnoxious east coast liberal to a good conservative. She has 2 self owned employment careers. I would not be surprised if she and our older son pull the plug on California and move to Floriduh. She despises our California politicians and her liberal neighbors.
We have good friends in Floriduh and a cousin, who was/is like an uncle to our sons. This son could run his own business from his home. They had thought about Idaho, but it may become another Oregone/Washington.
They could live in Floriduh, and he could run his consulting business with his son living in N. California as the local guy. She can do her business thing anywhere.