Shari, I am sorry that things have piled up and are in a loop of PITA BS. I wish there was something more that I could do to help You.
If You are only getting one (1) Death Certificate be sure that You get some good quality copies made. Some entities will accept a copy and others are going to accept ONLY an Original “Copy” which means that they want one with the Dr/Coroner Signature in ink on the paper and that paper may also have a Watermark on/in it. It’s stupid but it’s the way they do it.
I personally think it’s a scam that exists between the Certificate entities and the various companies.
Still Praying for You to have Peace and things to work out for You.
I am torn between giving it to the SS office and his term life insurance *if* the latter is still actually in effect.
Since he wholesale cut off all other provisions he had made for me, at this point it would not shock me.
I did not really matter all to him obviously and neither did the dogs.
I was little more than a free house and maid for half of my life.
Nothing more than a means to an end.
I am so ashamed to have been this stupid for so long.
Worse than that is the fact that most of the stuff he had was courtesy of my parents “loaning” him money that he never paid back yet that expensive equipment will seem like his “ estate “ when in truth, they paid for a huge portion of it.
Plus I was kicking his business website high in the search ranking due to learning SEO stuff pretty well.
He’d always tell me we would not even have a business if not for me doing well at that.
A friend told me that narcissists seek out loyal trusting people as they never suspect they’re being used and abused.
I’m an idiot.
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