Thanks for the post! To me, life can only be understood from a biblical perspective.
Marriage is a picture of Christ and his bride. In the end, it’s not about us or our happiness (though often that comes the experience) but about a spiritual transformation that Christ is attempting to bring about in our lives. No one fulfills that role perfectly, but it’s the goal to shoot for. Marriage isn’t easy. I think that’s part of the plan. To make us more like the Savior. We can’t do it without his help. Children are a blessing and often a trial. There are great highs and low lows. Again, the goal is to make us less selfish, more loving, more humble, more Christ like. It often feels like rubbing sandpaper in an open wound. But, over time, and with a dependence on God’s Spirit, we can make progress. Like the scripture states the struggle against our old nature and sin, with God’s help, produces in us the peaceful fruit of righteousness. My wife and I celebrated our 50th anniversary last July. We have three grown children and 7 grandkids. There were days (ok week/months) when I thought of walking away. I know my wife had those same thoughts as well. Today I’m grateful neither of us did - and I know my kids and grandkids are as well. In the end it comes down to who and what are you living for. The self life just doesn’t seem to end well or produce individuals of character. This life will end for all of us but there is a better one coming. Hopefully, you’re attempting to live with eternity’s values in view. One day it will be worth all the sacrifices.
“But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.”
Wow!
I am a Christian. I understand the the symbology.
We are warned not to marry unbelievers. Men shouldn’t marry women who have been run through by dozens of guys. Modern women are not Christian traditional women. They do not make good wives. Its not our job to marry them when 80% of the time they destroy the family and government rewards them for doing so.
In other words men shouldn’t settle for modern women and unbiblical marriage that comes with them.
Apart from the state of women ann marriage today, men do not need marriage. Marriage is and always has been, insurance for women. There are no benefits for men marrying modern women today. All the risk is on the man, society doesnt care about what happens to him if the woman decides to bail. He is the biggest loser, his standard of living goes down, and his finances get crushed. If kids zre involved he loses his kids. He becomes a slave, being sent to debtors prison if he cannot pay his ex while she screws around with another guy. The marrige is over but she still has access to his wallet. Does the man still have access to his ex’s body, the only unique thing she brought to the marriage? Nope.