Many people who retire move away at some point to be near their grandchildren, or to move to a home they built for retirement.
The answer is that work relationships do fade, and the best one can do is keep up with Holiday cards/newsletters once a year and an occasional email when a former coworker passes away.
-PJ
“Many people, who, retire move away at some point to be near their grandchildren, or to move to a home they built for retirement.”
With job changes often every 5 years for younger people, moving to be close to the grandkids is often futile when they change jobs or sometimes get divorces.Then, the person, who moved to be close is without family and maybe friends.
We are seeing an interesting trend with what my wife calls newer widows in today’s post Covid world.
There is a trend of newer/recent widows moving where they have siblings and sometimes semi retired or nephews/nieces.
One of our 80 something widows just moved from N. California to be with her family members about 100 miles south of Portland. She moved to our area with her former husband 40+ years ago. She has a sister/BIL and nieces and nephews in that Oregon area. As of this past Wednesday, she is now an Oregonian with family close by. She told us by phone, that she is no longer awake at 3:30am worrying about being alone.
Another newer widow is considering selling her home and moving to Arizona where 3 sisters and husbands and more nieces and nephews live.
One of our widow friends fell and broke a leg bone this week and is recovering. A daughter is out of country working and a son can’t come here due to his job. So she is basically by herself in the recovery phase. She has a younger brother and a SIL about 2 hours away. They have jobs/careers and can’t come here. However, they have a MIL smaller home on their property. She may go there for her recovery as that area is serviced by her PPO. Those younger relatives had told her, to move in before she fell. If she moves and likes the area, they want her to stay.
This works with widowers. A good friend’s wife died about 2+ years ago. They had downsized to a one bedroom apartment on a second floor with no elevators before she died.
He had a knee operation, and his daughter and SIL converted their garage into an inlaw home. His job is to feed the dog when his daughter and SIL take a trip. He had considered moving back to the Denver area to be near a sister. I warned him about the crime in that area.
His sister is now thinking of moving out here to live with one of my friend’s and her niece. They would be in walking distance from each other and the family members here and a short cab ride to medical offices and the local hospital. He still drives short distances.