Excellent recommendation. My husband and children could never be my enemies, but they ARE fools. Fools I still love, but can never completely trust again.
I would encourage you to read Ayn Rand if you have not done so.
I wish they were fools—I know you do as well.
But—they showed their hand.
I get it that you are very uncomfortable looking at it.
My wife and I disagree on things from time to time—everyone does.
But—I would never call her “selfish” for wanting to do something her way—because every human being has a right to believe what they wish and act on those beliefs.
Calling her “selfish” would be claiming she is sub-human and my slave.