Problem: the woman has to CHOOSE to be "your woman". Many choose NOT TO be any man's woman, because they have options.
In the past, a woman became the wife of an average guy because staying single was not an option, and her parents let her know that Prince Charming had better options than settling for her, so she better pick a guy who WAS willing to marry her.
For a successful marriage to occur, each spouse has to have an incentive to WORK AT keeping the other spouse happy.
Good post and what I'm about to say about the comment above is going to ruffle some feathers. For a marriage to work, one spouse must learn to submit to the other. That is to say, there can only be one "head of household."
I compare the relationship with my wife as that on a naval ship. On any naval ship, there is a Captain and an XO (executive officer). That is because having two captains just doesn't work. That analogy works on all situations by the way. There can only be one CEO for a company. There can only be one pilot on a plane (the other being a co-pilot).
Now the XO on a naval ship commands a lot of power and a good captain will always listen to the advice of his XO. That said, the ultimate decision lies with the captain. The crew members on the ship also typically fear the XO more than the Captain because the XO is the disciplinarian who carries out the captain's orders and gets things done.
My wife was an excellent XO when the kids were growing up. She ran a pretty tight ship on the homefront. She also gave me excellent advice that kept me from making some big mistakes. But there were other times that I had to overrule her, such as relocating to a new city for my job. She did not want to move but I decided that moving was best for my career path and my ability to support the family, so we moved...and it worked out pretty well.
Now there are some families where a FLR (female led relationship) works best. While growing up, the family that lived next door to us was definitely in a FLR. The husband was a solid, hard-working guy but very meek and submissive around his wife. She clearly made all the major decisions and the husband dutifully submitted to her guidance and leadership. Back then we would say that she "wore the pants in the family" but things seemed to work out pretty well for them and they seemed pretty happy together. So good for them.
My point is, for a marriage to work without constant fighting, discontent and unhappiness, one of the partners needs to accept being in a subordinate role. Othwerwise, you will always have that tension between you.
Of course, both partners, whether dominant or submissive, need to respect and honor each other. I am not at all saying that one of the spouses needs to be a "doormat." If you have a potential spouse that wants to walk all over you, run away!