I had a stepbrother who moved to New York to attend Parsons school of design in the late 70’s. When I overheard my dad and stepmom arguing over the “friend” he brought home from New York one thanksgiving, that’s finally figured out what was going on. I always thought that that choice that meant two less guy to compete for the girls at a party.
One of my cousins who lives in California is gay.
Back when I was a kid (and he was a young adult) my Mom said he was “light in the loafers”.
Not sure if I’ve heard that term anywhere else LOL.