And in the eyes of God.
God expects moral and sexual purity from both men and women.
It’s only people who justify in themselves what they disallow in others.
And while men and women are different, if does not justify a double standard in the least. That is generally known as “hypocrisy”.
Does it not occur to men that women also want to have a sexually pure man for her husband? That she doesn’t want some guy who has slept around with other women?
Of course they do, and while I am not justifying the rationale, I do understand the reasoning. They figure it men can do it, why can’t they? Why should they deny themselves to please a man who didn’t live up to the same standard he demands of her. If it’s a good enough standard for him to be loose sexually, then men should expect that women will allow themselves the same “privileges“ men allow themselves.
Besides, if men are so willing to sleep around, where do they expect to find the “pure” girls? All the ones they slept with are left for other men who also want “pure” girls. But if the men justify sleeping around like that, it cuts into the pool of sexually pure women they can choose from.
They are shooting themselves in the foot by diminishing the very thing they want.
Then again, men aren’t always known for thinking with the brain in their skull when it comes to sex.
I think there is a difference between the terms ‘double standards’ and ‘different standards’.
As you say, ‘double standards’ tends to look a lot like hypocrisy whereas ‘different standards’ does not.
In the parable of Jesus and the Adulteress, we don’t see Jesus looking for the man also involved in the affair.
Different standards or double standards?
The Catholic Church lays the burden on the woman to be responsible for saying ‘No’ when it comes to sex. Double, or different?
I think most philosophies understand the innate sex urges that drive most males and have tailored their cultures to survive the human storm. Women are asked to be stronger in saying no because they, as you say, have more sense in the matter when things get hot and lusty. Men are expected to concede to the woman’s wishes. Doesn’t always hold, but that is life.