There’s A Reason Moving In Before Marriage Makes Divorce More Likely, But Barstool Can’t Figure It Out

The Federalist ^ | 01/09/2023 | Elle Purnell

[FamiliarFace]

LOL. Now that’s funny, and a little bit sad, too.

We didn’t have a dishwasher till I was in my mid teens, and then it was one that you wheeled over to the sink and attached it to the faucet. Another hose drained from it into the sink. It was years before mom and dad were able to remodel the kitchen, and put a dishwasher alongside the cupboards. That house was built by my Grandpa and uncles in the 1930’s.

I’ve told my brother if he ever wants to remodel again, I want that old porcelain kitchen sink. It’s a beauty! Stains and all!

[Trump Girl Kit Cat]

I have a brand new dishwasher have NEVER used I ALWAYS wash dishes the old fashion way!! Dishwashers are great for families but for one or two people it is easy to just do them by hand!!

[FamiliarFace]

Congrats on 50 years!

[Raycpa]

Perhaps the group that lives together is less compatible than those who choose marriage at outset and we are seeing the results related to compatibly and not s causal effect.

[StAnDeliver]

“Couples who live together before marrying have nearly an 80 percent higher divorce rate than those who do not,” Bennett noted incredulously. “Which is crazy because you’d think you’d be the opposite,” Woodruff responded. “I lived with my boyfriend of five years and we broke up because we knew we weren’t compatible because we lived together.” “Because living together is the way you find out,” Bennett added, even though, as she noted, she and her husband didn’t move in together before marriage (mostly as a matter of coincidence)."

You have to be kidding me. There are two possibilities, let's look at them:

• No pre-cohabitation: You are too fu----g stupid to admit you made a mistake, for an average of 5 years. This one is as obvious as a parade float down 6th Ave. on Turkey Day.

• Pre-cohabitation: You decide to get married, warts and all, and then you decide that what you had hoped for after marriage, that your spouse would clean up their bad habits, never happens, and then you get divorced.

This is a Federalist article? LOFL. This is some Millenial garbage, Seekie, but I'm indulging it with my wisdom because there are, remarkably, some Gen X/Y Freepers who need this guidance.

Listen, young lions, ramrods, dumbasses -- marry based on spiritual compatibility (God above all); kindred compatibility (raising a family + relations between the two families); and fiscal compatibility (try to make as much as humanly possible truly without compromising your humanity).

[Sparticus]

My wife rarely lets dishes sit long enough to get crusty. We both rinse dishes as soon as we’re done eating off them. She quickly washes them (her brothers call her ‘the White tornado’ after her maiden name). She hates listening to a dishwasher and is certain she uses much less water. One came with this house, has it’s own breaker, which has been off for a long time.

Your unused dishwasher would the perfect place for storing seldom used pots and kitchen gadgets.

[SeekAndFind]

👍👌🙏

[Vaduz]

Unless they want kids don’t get married save you money you change over the years and you don’t have to worry about losing half of what you worked for.

I know I know there are exceptions to the rule but why risk it.

Only death and taxes are the sure thing

[SamAdams76]

Doing the dishes is fine if the other one cooks the meal.

Whoever gets to cook the meal gets to spend time surfing Free Republic while the other one does the dishes and scrubs the pots and pans.

Those who cannot accept that cannot stay married too long.

[OldMissileer]

Whoever gets to cook the meal gets to spend time surfing Free Republic while the other one does the dishes and scrubs the pots and pans.

My wife and I, now married 41 years, have that agreement but with an addendum: The person cooking is to clean up things as they cook. That way the person doing the dishes isn't overwhelmed by piles of filthy pans that takes the rest of the night, thus creating tensions.

Before our daughter found her husband and bought a house she would cook quite a bit. She is an excellent cook and loves to do so, but she is a tornado in the kitchen. So many cooking utensils, pans, and stuff all piled up and all filthy beyond belief. Her food was beyond excellent but cleaning up after her was a nightmare.

Now we are alone we wash up as we go along (as much as we can) and we are both very happy and meals are not stressful or a chore and cleaning up is a breeze.

[arthurus]

People who cohabit before marrying have from the beginning a more casual concept of marriage.

[arthurus]

Mine was a marriage not preceded by cohabitation or even dating. It was just someone I knew and I had known her parents. She got herself in a jam when I was on the other side of the world and needed a way out that did not involve strife or a major decision that was not in her worldview. I was thinking then that it looked like I would never marry because I was letting life slide by without connecting. So I asked if she wanted to get married. That was 55 years ago. Best move I ever made. We are still together and fine.

[going hot]

Lots of virtue going on here.