I’m so sorry for your loss, Laz.
I have had this happen to me quite a few times, and, as difficult as it is, it is usually for the best.
I have a friend who has been my “Best Friend” for 55 years. However, in the last few years her political views have become repugnant to me. She knows it too, and never misses an opportunity to snidely cast a negative remark about President Trump, Republicans, Christians, and People who believe in Traditional Gender roles. She seems to be always “testing” me to see how I will react.
She’s an intelligent person, and very educated, yet she seems to like to feign obtuseness to see what I will do.
She was a Director of Human Resouces for a big famous company for many years.
Every conversation with her feels like a hostile JOB INTERVIEW.
Eventually, she or I will go over the line, and that will be the end. Then I know I will be sad, just as you are now. I can rationalize as much as I want, but I KNOW it’s going to hurt.
If it’s any consolation, you have LOTS of friends here on FR. :-)
Well ... There's your problem, right there.
Maybe, but a truly intelligent person knows your beliefs and would refrain from gratuitously "testing" you to see how you react. Call her what she is. A bully.
She knows it too, and never misses an opportunity to snidely cast a negative remark about President Trump, Republicans, Christians, and People who believe in Traditional Gender roles.
She’s an intelligent person, and very educated,
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IMHO no one who can be accurately portrayed as you have described this woman should be considered “an intelligent person” regardless of how educated they are.