We live in a hypergamous age, where the top 20% of men keep an informal harem of 60% of the women. The 60% of the those women will not make themselves available to the so-called lesser men until the woman start to age out, at around 30 years of age.
The middle 60% of men, who don’t have much in the way of casual sex, have to share the bottom 40% of women. These are the women that are wanting to marry the middle 60% of men.
The bottom 20% of man have no hope of companionship at all. There are the incels. They are either unfortunate in the physical department, which they can’t change, and/or they never had strong male role models to learn from to increase their attractiveness through character.
It’s become a sub-culture onto itself, just like any other groups will form subcultures around those who share commonality with them.
They could all benefit from a Dale Carnegie course on “how to Win Friends and Influence People.”
The basics have not changed over the last century.
there are plenty of good mates out there but most of them are not Barbies.....