When I grew up doctors, particularly pediatricians, were our friends.
Now I look at them as enemies and have ZERO trust in them. I did take my kids there when sick, but it was in and out, no small talk, nothing regarding any social/developmental issues, NOTHING. For all I know, and which is likely true, anything that I discuss will follow that kid for the rest of his life, and may well impact him in many ways (such as buying a gun, for example).
It sounds like somewhere along the line, a lot of goodwill got flushed down the drain by those docs. What a waste.