In some things, more than anything else, competence matters.
Think about those situations where the individual next to you, if not ‘competent’ can get you killed, maimed, or worse. Those are situations were competence is far more important than being nice.
I believe this to be true, and this is why I feel that I do not belong in this brave new world.
That could be a lot: military, firefighters, police, heavy equipment operator, crane operator, electrical lineman, a day at the range, etc.