[dfwgator]

I call it the “Many Fish In the Sea” Syndrome. People will just drop a potential mate, if they don’t tick off all the boxes, thinking that eventually they’ll find someone that does.

[EEGator]

[Secret Agent Man]

Replace people with women. Men don’t have laundry lists of must haves. Women have outrageous laundry lists of must and must not haves. And their lists get longer as they get older.

[Jonty30]

Women’s tendency for hypergame does not.

The problem, for women, in hypergamy, is that if they don’t lock down a male before they are thirty, their choices narrow considerably.

The men they rejected will have built their careers in their lost decade in their 20’s and become attractive when they hit thirty. However, that’s when women’s choices are narrowing and those men often make themselves unavailable during their thirties because they are focused on women in their twenties, now that they have access to them. This results in a lost decade for many women.

That situation only tends to start righting itself when both genders hit their forties. That’s why I state the smartest thing a woman can do is lock down a man they can be happy with when she is in her twenties.

[Zuriel]

** People will just drop a potential mate, if they don’t tick off all the boxes, thinking that eventually they’ll find someone that does.**

My sis (now 70) took her time. About the time she was turned 35, my dad said to her: “If you’re looking for the perfect man, there are none. And I love you dearly, but you’re not the perfect woman.”

She met an imperfect guy at 38, and married him a year later. It worked out well, they are still together and happy.

I was very particular, only bending on wealth. I didn’t care if the chick was poor. My wife met all my specs marvelously. (and was not rich or poor, imo)