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Household chores are done by the person who is annoyed most by them not being done. Agreement means nothing. The standard of clean, or picked up is different. Do dishes need to be done before you go to bed? Do they need to be done before you leave the dining room and retire to the living room? My wife would say yes to both. I could not figure it out. After thirty years I have agreed to put my dishes in the dishwasher instead of the counter. She has agreed to wash everything and make the kitchen clean. I normally do a search around the house for used dishes while she is doing the dishes. She does this, because a messy kitchen drives her nuts.

In turn, whenever I walk into a room, I shut every drawer and close every cabinet and door. I can’t figure why someone who needs her bed made every day and every dish cleaned as soon as its used, has a problem shutting cabinets and drawers. But that’s marriage. We do the chores that annoy us most.

My wife and I are happy with our arrangement.

The standard of clean, or picked up is different. Do dishes need to be done before you go to bed? Do they need to be done before you leave the dining room and retire to the living room? My wife would say yes to both. I could not figure it out.

AGREED! Before I married, I simply used disposables for EVERYTHING (except the steak knife and iced tea glasses). I even bought my frozen vegetables in small boxes and used the box as a bowl, like those old Jumbo Assortment cereal boxes I had as a kid (except those leaked)

All I had to wash was the Mr. Coffee iced tea pitcher and the knife.

Wait a minute! Did you marry my wife?

That sounds like my experience.

It’s very true that we all have our own threshold for how much clutter we can tolerate.

Marriage is all about compatibility, and some of those things you don’t find out until you’re married a while. So being able to compromise is crucial.

You’ve done good. Congrats!

Household chores are done by the person who is annoyed most by them not being done.

That's pretty much how it works in my home. My wife has no tolerance for unmade beds, dirty laundry and dishes in the sink. So she makes the bed, does the laundry and does the dishes.

I have no tolerance for clutter and disorganized drawers and cupboards. I also hate running low on food, supplies and other essentials. So I do most of the shopping and organizing around the house.

Seems to work well for us.