Lately my hub doesnt want me going to Walmart...during the day!! I appreciate his concern, but sheesh.
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“A thing providing protection against a possible eventuality.”
Cut him so slack. Try not to get upset because he cares.
Sometimes my wife says I’m overprotective......and that’s fine......Sometimes things happen when you least expect it.....criminals count on that.
He'd rather carry your groceries than carry you.
Perhaps if you carried, he'd ease up a bit?
I would go during the day to avoid crime.
Early morning or late night to avoid covid.
Early morning to avoid both on the theory that most criminals operate at night instead of early in the morning.
He’s a good man that takes his oath seriously to love and do what is best for you. My wife and I have been married for 33 years and we love being with each other but if she has to go anywhere without me she will carry.
Btw, we had to make a quick stop at Walmart over the weekend…we haven’t been there for a very long time. We literally were in the store for less than a minute and she asks “ you’re carrying, right”? She smiled because she knew I always carry and am always scanning the environment. We got in the car to leave and she said “wow…that was scary”.
We both agree to go places together as we like to but if we can’t she will go to areas we know are safer even if it’s further and more money. This started in 2020 and our safer areas are shrinking here in eastern PA.
I’m a guy, I carry concealed, and my wife doesn’t want ME going to Wal-Mart during the day. It’s a real zoo, anymore.
A friend of mine was at the drug store in broad daylight when some guy grabbed her and attempted an abduction. Unfortunately, the reason she was at the drugstore was because she had a horrible cold which included laryngitis. When she tried to scream, only a ‘croak’ came out. She fought him like a tiger - very petite (probably one reason he picked her). She ended up on the pavement kicking at him with her feet as he tried to subdue her.
A man in the same parking lot had seen them fighting. He thought it was a ‘domestic’ and was staying out of it. Since the fight continued and was looking more desperate, he finally decided to intervene, yelling something like “hey, what’s going on there?” At this point, the attacker broke it off and fled. My friend was very shaken up and bruised up. The police told her that this appeared (by description & MO) to be the same guy who had attacked another woman in the same parking lot a couple of days before.
So yeah, daylight and being in a public place does not make a difference to some people. Mistake my friend made: she had picked up her prescription AND a book to read while she was at home. She was leafing through the pages, not paying attention to her surroundings as she was walking to her car. She looked like “prey” - her small stature didn’t help.
Even in daylight, when you walk out of a store, STOP. Look around. Look at your vehicle ... anything strange going on (van parked next to it), other cars, people loitering in cars, etc. If “surveying the scene” appears ok, walk with a PURPOSE - head up/on a swivel, striding out. You look aware, like you will see a predator coming & like you are no easy target.
IF you are ever approached by someone trying to be “helpful” (let me load those groceries for you), tell them NO, I do NOT need help. If they do not take “NO” for an answer, that is a major red flag. Do not say something like “that’s ok, I think I can handle this myself”. That is not a NO. If the person persists, tell them NO again, mayby put your hand up in a “stop” motion .... if you have to, don’t worry about being “rude”. NO, I do NOT need help - GO AWAY. [This situation happened to my mom at a Walmart, in broad daylight, BTW]
If you want to ‘read more about it’, check out this great book (gave a copy to all of my nieces when they went to college): Gavin De Becker’s The Gift of Fear. Part of the book is on profiling threats which may not be of that much interest (if an employer, public figure it would be), but the parts on listening to your gut, red flags (like someone who does not respect NO), and other info is well worth the price.
Your hubby isn’t wrong to be so cautious - he must care about you very much :-)