It’s mine as well. Have 4 wonderful kids. 2 working, 2 still in HS. My wife has a computer science degree, she and me paid for it along the way. Proud of that. I earned my way using the GI Bill and the VA after the Army broke me.
Most of my point, or argument against paying for college for your kids really boils down to self respect. That is something that can’t be earned when someone, even your parents give it to you.
My kids, even the youngest, already know they have support from us whatever they choose. Our support is letting them stay at the house while going to college or working and being a productive citizen. They’ve got free room and board, laundry, food; all that. It isn’t insisting they make it on their own, it’s allowing them the chance to work it out themselves with a stable environment.
Staying at home while going to college typically only works for the 1st 2 years (community college)—most people don’t live within commuting distance of a 4 year university.