Done in proper amounts your suggestions are reasonable. Kids are overweight prediabetics. Tennis shoes shouldn’t cost $100. Purses shouldn’t be $350. Working is good, and having them chip in to pay some of the costs of surviving is a good idea. College has become a joke. Covid proved much of it is wasted, unless learning hands on skills and knowledge.
Until employers wake up and realize that educational prerequisites they demand are truly not necessary for the jobs they offer, this ‘joke’ will continue full speed ahead with the backing of parents and Fed gov.