“I think in this context, you and I have a different understanding of the meaning of the word “had”.
No he didn’t. If he had just left it there, nothing would have happened.”
My context was that as a father he felt an obligation to respect his daughter and her gravesite. Sorry you don’t feel this way.
I'm sorry his daughter died, and nothing else matters.
I have a friend who's only son shot himself with a gun his father gave him as a gift. A friend and I went to see him sometimes afterward and he lived halfway across the country.
When we were talking about it, I told him there was nothing I could do to ease his pain.
He said "That is the best answer you could have given."
His wife died a month after we left. He now has nobody in his home and I feel horrible for him, but I cannot provide any comfort beyond telling him I hurt with him.
And people want to have a fit about grave decorations?
Some people need a more serious perspective in their life.
Of all the people whom I would expect to have the best perspective on how transitory life is, it would be a Preacher.