My GF has an eerily similar situation in her family. Her mom is having to raiser her 16 YO nephew because my GF’s sister is an irresponsible methhead.
He’s gender dysmorphic, addictive behavior, has run away twice and has reported his grandmother to CPS because she won’t pay for transition surgery; he even threatened to kill his grandmother and sister over it. He was sent to psychiatric therapy provided by the state, where at the first meeting the “doctor” asked him how soon he wanted to transition....without spending as much as minute trying to figure out who he is and how he came to where he was.
I actually had to check early reports to find out this happened on the other side of the state.
It used to be when we visited, I never disarmed and never slept. I finally had to put my foot down and tell the GF if I was going there, I would stay in a hotel with or without her.......
Do not marry into that family.
Thank you for your comments about your situation. You are very wise in your decision to stay physically away from this insanity. Not so long ago, if a man wanted to undergo hormone treatments and surgery to look more like a woman beyond dressing up & cosmetics & pretty wigs, he had to go through intensive psychological evaluation to figure out the source of the dysphoria. Women go thru this, too, but seems more rare (Chastity Bono was sexually abused as a child by the nanny and Ellen DeGeneres says she was sexually abused by her stepfather).
I have read detailed accounts where I felt great sympathy for what happened to these people as babies, children, that messed them up so badly. The honest ones who went all the way will tell you it didn’t “fix” them and many regret what they did. Now the young ones are being groomed to embrace their dysphoria, ‘No Questions Asked’ by the Professionals any more, for something most would outgrow after adolescence with actual help. Instead, they are railroaded into painful deadly hormone treatments and surgery that just adds to the underlying suffering.
If we don’t stop this Soul Killing Agenda, more and more families will face this Evil. Our “tolerance” over the last 20+ years got us to where we are now.